Rejection

    We have always heard about rejections and not being accepted whether it's a job, or any other opportunity where a group of people are brought together to make one shine out the brightest. However, what we did not know is the feelings we get when we are rejected. If we made it through, did we really know what the other who did not make it through feel like? I don't really think so, the beauty of rejection is when you want something really bad, so bad you start to ache from the rejection you got, that is when you start to really work for it. That is when you do not stop like others, that is when you decide fuel yourself with that rejection and start to move forward and give it another try. I have come to learn that when you face set backs and obstacles, that is when you really know you wanted something really bad more than anything. Because you want it so bad, you start to get started on looking again and on working harder than you have the time before.

    The beauty of it comes in you believing that you have a better chance to come, maybe it will be the next, maybe it will be after several trials and attempts, you never really know until you reach for it. Will you be rejected, and you will be criticized, but it is only the smart and persistent that really fuel up with that and move stronger than before to what they want.

    It's part of life's race. Those who fall down and put in the effort to get back up, and those who want to give up because they are running out of energy, that is the beauty of this race. 

There's a lot of people, but not so much that reach the end, their goals and desires.

Post it on the Internet

This way was expected decades ago.

People in the past feared its approach, but people living in its generation have no idea what is going on.

Several years ago, people feared the day technology will steal away a heartfelt conversation, and undoubtedly a loved one.

They used to pray for avoidance of this time, some are already gone, while others were perked to live in the most undesired generation.

"It's like living with the dead", some of them say. You go out for lunch with your friends and the first thing they want to do is take a picture of the restaurant's logo, then upload it on the internet. Next, they want to take a picture of all you together in what is called a "selfie" and also post in on the internet. Then things start to calm down and technology is put aside until the appetizers are placed in the middle of the table. Again, they take a picture of it and sometimes of them eating it and post it on the internet. Things start to calm down again with technology put aside while you enjoy the appetizer together.

"Phew, finally.", you think and start a decent conversation and enjoy the talks with your friends until the main courses start to roll onto the table and your dishes become this afternoon's person of interest and leading models.

"Why bother," you start to think to yourself and enjoy the meal on your own.

When you go home, you start to reminisce over the good old days, when a one hour lunch  break would extend to a two-three hour lunch break with laughs, talks and fun moments. Now, there is nothing like that anymore, it's all centered around "let me show them what I'm doing."

People do not enjoy a day out in the park without "showing them what they are doing.", they do not even enjoy a 45 minute yoga session before posting something online to "let them know that I'm doing Yoga tonight."

No wonder our ancestors feared this day, how did they know it was going to come?

The put in a little effort and made a study to conclude that.

Fearing the day when technology steals our loved ones away, and fearing the time where you decide to write a diary and look for a stranger to speak to hoping your language and vocabulary will not fade away with time.

Why?

How did we become slaves to technology?

It is not a bad thing to work hand-in-hand with it, but it sure is bad to live a life with technology alone and forget the world.

Wake up, before its too late.

The Beauty of Life

     There will be times when you suddenly start to experience moments you never thought you would. You remember seeing them in movies and wonder what it feels like to be in their shoes, little did you know that life will grant that thought of yours and make it a reality.

     Looks and expressions speak louder than words, but what makes them special is the fact that you understand those expressions from your perspective and not from theirs. Maybe they steal a glimpse of you for a reason other than the one you think you know of. What makes you feel helpless is your persistence to not cross the line and find yourself doing what you shouldn’t, but all that you can do is let them know of what life has grown into you. Sometimes you can not do what your heart desires, yet all you have left is the simplicity of words and the huge impact they can hold. It takes  a lot of effort to control yourself, from this experience you get to learn that you really have grown into a good person. Now that is not to brag about, that is for you to praise yourself for what you have become. It is because you grew into learning what was right from what was wrong, and because you were raised that way. Of course it all started with your parents, if you don't have them around, then it's one of them. The least you can do when you grew into the person you are right now is appreciate the effort and time they spent on you, to make you who you are right now.

     This is the beauty of life, it is then that you start to feel the beautiful sensation of being a grown up. Seeing what it is like to be on the outside, a place that is not so peaceful like home, a place that is filled with masked people, a place that is filled with experiences that will help you become a better person and more importantly help you grow.

     Again, this is the beauty of life, being able to sit back and watch the world spin around you. Watch the people do what they want to do, and have yourself learn from what is wrong and praise what is right and keep it.

     That is the beauty of life indeed.

There Is No Difference

    Over time, you come to learn that it is not all about how old you are or what position you are holding at the moment. It's all about what you grew up doing and how you were initially taught in life. How you were raised and on what basis, sometimes I sit back and think about being in someone else's shoes. Although I wouldn't trade my pair of shoes for anyone else's but I usually tend to sit in a public place and watch all those different minds wandering around maybe with a life goal or just carelessly. I have been blessed with a wonderful life all thanks to my mother, and I came to learn to appreciate everything and thank god for everything so sometimes I watch people and wonder. 

    If you consider age as an example, then life have brought be across a lot of grown up people that have experience life more than I have, but sadly they do not seem to be thinking right or even for the least, "logically".

    If you consider the level of education, then that is no exception at all. It is true that the more you learn, the more you know and the better you understand. However, if you start to look at it partially from a different perspective, some people who have not received the gift of education turned out to be more life survivors than people who have been blessed with the best education. They happen to understand and help others from life, they taught me that not everything in life is in books. Sometimes you do not need books to live, you actually should not believe that in order to live you have to study, no it's actually the other way around. In order to live life the way it should be lived, you need to study if you get the chance, if you do not get the chance then you need to live life with morally and ethically. A lot of literate people have taught us what life is all about without reading about it in books, a lot have changed the world without knowing how to read a book, and a lot have positively impacted the human race without knowing to write a word. In the end it is all a matter of acceptance, appreciation of anything you have, and faith in god.

    It doesn't matter what you do for a living, or what level of education you have completed, just know that all of this is useless if you start to live with no goals and start to treat people like they work for you. Just remember that in the end we will all fall into the same place and we all have the same parents down in history, also do not forget that in the end we are all literally the same. There is no difference between us, all of us are humans, all of us were put in this life test for a reason, and all of us will meet again when our time is over here.

They Were Right

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    Growing up, we were living with the thoughts that everything is really easy to do, it just needed a little courage from our side to achieve. However, little did we know about what it really took for all the elders around us to make life seem so simple and easy. Little did we know about the time they spent finding the easy solution for us, the most enjoyable one for us to understand, and the simplest act for us to stand up and talk... little did we really know indeed. They spent most of their time, usually days working on a project for us to dissolve it from that huge complicated one to the tiny one we saw was very easy to do. We thought when we grew up, we would easily find our way on our own, we would easily make it through, little did we know, indeed.

    It finally is true, what they used to say, once you grow up you will thank me, once you grow up you will learn and know what it takes. All it needed was to grow up, and we finally did, and what conclusion did we fall into: "They were right."

    If there's anything you want to be, anything you want to do, or anything you want to get, you will definitely have to work day and night to get to it, some say you have to give up sleep to get to where you want. Are they right? Is that true? Damn right it is.

    They used to make fun of all the dreams and ambitions you have, most of the time we heard people say "Dreams? They never come true.". Some people say they don't, other believe they do, but have they witnessed dreams come true? That, I am not sure about, but one thing's definite and for sure : I have seem dreams come true right before my very own eyes.  After that being witnessed, I had faith in dreams even more, because at some point if I crave my path towards my dreams, I will make them happen, and that is definite.

    Don't just sit there and dream all you want, sit there and dream all you want and work your way to get there, take that step that will be the breaking point between your courage and hesitance, and one day you will look back and pat yourself on the back for being courageous at least once in your life so far.

"열심히 해라"

Numbers won't change your life

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     It's been 2017 and a fresh new year for sometime now, however it doesn't really feel like a new year as in a new resolution, a new me or a new anything for that matter. It's quite funny and ironic how people pray that a number is going to be that marker of their lives, how a number can change their lives to the better, to the worse of simply stay as it is. Praying to a number to give you the best you ever deserved or the best you've ever wanted is never going to happen, reality speaks harsh but it's the truth. Several times across twitter, I can across this face-slamming quote said by one of my followers, he simply said "If you want anything from 2017, then don't ask it, ask Allah." because it's true. I wonder if I ask my journal to help me publish my book, would that happen? Ha, not at all.

     You see, you are given a whole new opportunity every single day to do the best you can and change whatever you want to change every day, what else more do you want? Personally speaking, it's just a huge blessing for me to get a chance to wake up the next morning and live up my new opportunity to the best I can because unlike some portion of the population, they weren't given this second chance at all.  A new year is simply another wake up call for you to make a difference, but it's not the motive to do so, because just like the last year if you start setting up resolutions but not really convinced by them and simply not wanting to change the way you think, then why waste and write a plan? There is no harm in writing a plan, the problem is simply within you, yourself. Change the way you think, change the way you see the world and change your routine for a better version of yourself, take that step with strict determination and passion and you're going to see that it's not really the new year that's bringing the best in you, it's simply you bringing the best in yourself, isn't that beautiful? Yes, I bet it is.

     If you really want to see how useless your resolutions are when you want everything in the world but you're there sitting on the couch facing your laptop, then take a moment to look at the people working in the market in your district, or the people working at Malls, where you spend most of your time, hopefully not. Not any workers, but the ones focused on cleaning, trash emptying and all that work you disregard, they are the ones knowing how to make the best of their day, when you look at them, they simply live the worst life from your perspective, but how do they still have the energy and courage to give you smile? It is those people that despite the hell they're going through, that give you the smile are said to be the strongest, happiest and bravest. 

     Do not disregard your blessings and be ungrateful, because what you have at the moment, has been lost by someone else, someone else prayers to go back in time and thank Allah for all that's been given to them, just because they forgot to be thankful, forgot to enjoy that moment where they had it all because they were busy wanting more, it's okay to want more, but it's not okay to forget what you have, what your blessed with, what's around you at this very split moment, all it takes is being thankful and grateful. 

From Strangers to Family

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    A writer once said that people walk into your life for a fairly unknown reason that each side is unaware of. However, God is the only party in this game that really knows why people really walk into your life and at some point eventually walk out of it. The reason being so is that he is the one who made this meeting possible, he is the one that at some point in your lives, you met certain people, and after sometime one of you had to go separate ways. No, it's not "love" as you think it is, it's not a relationship, when we say one of you had to go separate ways, we refer to the act of finding your dreams in another place, or ending a chapter of your life in one place and deciding to continue your legacy some other place. Yes, that's more like it.

    You meet people in the most random of ways and in the weirdest of places, where you never thought you'd meet them. That's the beauty of interconnection and a change in your life. The beauty lies when you welcome this meeting with open arms and accept the fact that God brought you people together to either learn from one another, or to give yourself a chance to become a better you, or to stand up and finally make that daring change you have always hesitated to do. This is why the saying of "people walk into your lives do so for a fairly wonderful reason, only time will reveal." The problem lies in the time where suddenly life decides to make you go separate ways, you don't get to sit and talk to that person like before, you don't get to learn something or teach something, worst of all that person is no longer in that place you have always cherished to visit. This is when you discover that whoever God decided to make a path for in your life has become more than a friend, they started to feel more like family, a family member you never thought you'd have and a family member that is more precious and cherished than blood itself. But when you decide to look at the bright side, you feel really blessed of getting the opportunity to make a difference in their life and to actually meet them at some point in your life, that's simply wonderful. However it really does not overtake the feeling of helplessness and not having the ability to make a difference, this is where you start to apply healthy thinking as said by the outstanding Richard Carlson where he mentions that by having the ability to acknowledge that your sad and negative thoughts are only temporary and shall not pass, you are able to limit your negative thoughts that lead to different additional sets of other negative thoughts, that's the beauty of controlling the way you think to avoid harming yourself. The mere reason being is that most people don't really know that they are the ones causing sadness, and depression on themselves because of their thoughts and thinking. Look at the bright side and know that you are only harming yourself by forming a negative thought of a very simple sad thought that leads to a lot of damage to your mental health.

    Acknowledge that although that family member is leaving to pursue another chapter in their life to carry on with their book, you should feel really satisfied by having the chance and opportunity to know that person that quickly became a family member when they were only a stranger. That's more than a blessing to me.

    No one is really meant to stay by your side forever, this is life. Although people come and go in your life, their love and affection never leaves with them. Those feelings are all that's left along with the memories you make, this is why you were meant to cherish every single moment with such family members because deep down inside you realise that someday one of you shall move on with their life and all that's left are those pictures that now form memories that make you smile whenever you look at them.